Books You Need To Read Part 2

Books You Need To Read Part 2

By now, you have probably noticed that I tend to read a lot, and all that reading means that I have gone through quite a few books. But, as every reader will know, there are usually only a select few that stand out to us enough to recommend. So here we are again with yet another roundup of the books I have read recently. You can find some more recommendations from my last post here. Let me know if you have read any of these or are planning to read them!

1)      The Hating Game by Sally Thorne

Are you in the mood for a good rom-com? Are office enemies one of your favourite tropes? Do you love reading witty and quick banter? The Hating Game by Sally Thorne centers around the epic enemy/friendship situation between Lucy Hutton and Joshua Templeman in an office setting. With an abundance of witty banter, not-so-charming and some much-needed hard-hitting realizations, this book is a must-read for all those who love a good rom-com.

2)      The Jane Austen Society by Natalie Jenner

I love Jane Austen just as much as the next person, but I think I love the world she created even more – and of course, the readers who interact with it. The Jane Austen Society follows a group of people who have been brought together for their love of Jane Austen. Coming from all different backgrounds, who would never normally cross each other, they come together to save Jane Austen’s legacy and preserve it for generations to come. If you are in the mood for a good comfort read, then you should pick this book up. Make sure to prepare yourself a cup of tea while you read this book on a rainy day.

3)      Take Me Home Tonight by Morgan Matson

Morgan Matson is one of my favourite YA authors so naturally, I had to pick up this book the week it came out. Take Me Home Tonight centers around two inseparable best friends, who get separated one night in New York City and set off on their adventures for the first time. The story explores growing up, change and figuring out that what you want might change and that is okay. I love Morgan Matson and truly wish I could live the adventures her characters go through, just because it’s YA doesn’t mean there isn’t something for everyone. Take a fun and crazy overnight trip to New York City and allow yourself to be swept away by the adventure of it all.

4)      Sparks Like Stars by Nadia Hashimi

Sparks Like Stars centers around a young girl who sees her entire family killed in Afghanistan during the Soviet invasion. Her entire world as she knows it is completely taken away from her, but one guard sneaks her off to the home of a US embassy employee. Their goal is to get her to America as quickly as possible without being seen, for fear that she might not be safe. Throughout the book, we learn about the trauma she endures, the effects of harsh realities hitting her at such a young age and what it means to grieve the loss of your loved ones. Sparks Like Stars has to be one of the most heartbreaking but necessary reads for everyone and anyone. The resilience, grit and determination that the main character shows are admirable and tremendously terrifying. Ultimately, the reality of so many children caught in the middle of a war they didn’t create. It is simply a must-read for everyone.

If you need a few more recommendations, here are some books I am planning on buying for Summer 2021:

– That Summer by Jennifer Weiner

– People we meet on vacation by Emily Henry

– Meet you in the middle by Devon Daniels

– Siege & Storm by Leigh Bardugo

Becoming Who You Want To Be

Becoming Who You Want To Be

Becoming the person you have always wanted to be, is a long process. It requires you to make a promise to yourself every night before bed that tomorrow you will try again, and it requires you to act on that promise every morning. It’s not an easy promise to keep to ourselves, and oftentimes it’s one we won’t keep. But that doesn’t mean you should stop trying to be the person you always wanted to be.

But getting back at it and motivating yourself to try again becomes easier when you have the following things in mind: a reason behind why you want to become that person, consistency and a core set of values. Here’s a little bit more of an explanation as to why you need these three things in your life when you are trying to become the person you have always wanted to be.

1)      Establishing a ‘Why’

Why do you want to be this person? To live a happier life? Perhaps, to live a more balanced life? To be more present? The process of becoming the person you always wanted to be is challenging and exhausting but having a solid reason as to why you are becoming this version of yourself can save you in more ways than you know. When things get tough, or you feel like giving up, having that ‘why’ to catch you is crucial to continuing the lifelong journey of becoming who you want to be. Starting things without creating a solid foundation first, often leads to things falling apart faster than you wanted.

2)      Consistency

In most endeavours in life, people will tell you that consistency is key. It also applies to this matter and is one of the few ideas I try to follow every single day. When creating anything, a project, an idea and yourself keeping up consistent habits that you know add a tremendous amount of value and joy to your life is key. Doing those all the time is the tricky part, but I can tell you that forcing yourself to keep up healthy habits, whatever they may be, is key to becoming the person you want to be. Eventually, they will become second nature and you will be one step closer to being that version of yourself that you know you can be.

3)      Establish a clear set of values

When envisioning this version of yourself, it’s easy to imagine where they will be living, wearing, eating, who they will be surrounding themselves with, etc. But as we all know, life is a lot more complex than that and can throw a few curveballs at you. Through time, that ideal version of you might change or evolve and that’s completely okay. Adjust, pivot, try new habits that would align with that version, even if it’s not the one you started with. More often than not, pivoting and readjusting is a lot easier when you have a clear list of values that you want to live by. Values can change, everything does, but more often than not our core values are with us for the long haul. Having a clear idea of those core values can allow you to work towards that person you want to become, but also allow you to change course whenever you want or feel the need to. Because you aren’t changing absolutely everything, just the direction but not the core of who you are (but between you and me, you can change that too – it’s your life after all).

The journey is tough but you can do it. You can and are allowed to be the person you have always dreamed of being.

Closure

Closure

I used to believe that closure was a given. But, throughout the past few years, I have realized that that perspective was a tad naïve. If anything, closure is reserved for the lucky situations and more often than not, people never get the closure they deserve.

Closure is not guaranteed, so why do we constantly assume it’s something we will get?

The fact that life happens in mysterious and complicated ways is not a new idea. We accept that sometimes things don’t go according to plan, people leave us, or we sometimes don’t get the proper chance to say goodbye to a person or a place. We accept all these things, but still, we are left in some sort of limbo when we don’t get the closure we crave.

Closure is not guaranteed, but it’s also a vital part of what comes after. It’s a vital component to the moving on “equation”, yet somehow, it’s not always a part of the equation that is fulfilled.

Closure and I are currently in that limbo phase, where I know full well, I will not get the closure that I want but I am still expecting it to happen. In just under two weeks, I will be graduating with my Bachelor’s degree. However, due to covid restrictions, I won’t be able to have a “normal” graduation. I won’t get to celebrate with family and friends, nor will I be able to walk across the stage and get that feeling of accomplishment. I will be sitting in my basement staring at a list of names running up the screen and that’s it.


The goal isn’t to make you feel bad for me. I am truly grateful to be graduating and for everything that has happened in the last four years. But I would be lying if I didn’t tell you how disappointed I am not to be getting those specific moments of closure.

For a few months, my way of dealing with the fact that I won’t get the closure I want was to forget that the last four years had even happened. I finished my last course in the Fall and then decided to toss away all the blood, sweat and excess tears that I poured into school. If I wasn’t going to get the closure that I wanted, then I was just going to ignore the entire situation altogether. Now, I understand that you can’t deal with a disappointing situation by ignoring what led you to it.

So, what now? How do I find the closure I so desperately need and still move on with my life? The answer isn’t simple, it’s rather messy.

Just because you don’t get that definite moment of something coming to an end doesn’t mean that you can’t begin to move on.

What I have come to understand is that letting yourself move on without the pretty tied bow of closure might just be the only way you can create a sense of closure for yourself. So often we think we need closure to move past what was happening, but closure is not a pitstop in the road. Closure is a journey, it’s something you have to work through and take with you as you advance in your life.

Closure, in its definite sense, is not guaranteed. But just because you don’t get that one moment where it all comes together and ends perfectly doesn’t mean you can never experience closure. It just means that you need to sit with the idea of closure a little bit longer and most likely brings it on the journey with you to the next thing. Closure can come to us in different ways, if I have learned anything it’s that closure doesn’t come in one neat little package. Oftentimes, it’s something we have to create ourselves.

How The Book Industry Has Changed

How The Book Industry Has Changed

When I was young, I absolutely hated reading. My parents would have to set a timer and practically force me to sit down and read, but anyone who knows me now and sees my reading habits, would not think that little kid and I were the same person.

When I started high school, books became an escape for me. I would sit for hours on weekends and read my books. I loved reading, and I wish I could tell you when exactly I shifted towards becoming a book lover, but all I know is that I have not stopped reading since.

Since I have been an avid reader for a solid decade or more at this point, I have come to notice that a lot of things in the book industry have changed. Not only have I started to notice so many more books are being published, but also the types of books being published has changed so much.

The other day I was browsing my local bookstore, which I had not been to in months, and I came across the YA section, which quite honestly is not a section I peruse often anymore. But something called me to that section, and I felt 15 again, except the bookshelves looked different than how I remembered them. The stories that were being displayed were different, diverse, intricate but also very real. Suddenly fiction was portraying a very true reality and I find its not something that was prioritized in the YA section when I was growing up.

Going through the rest of the store finally made me realize how much has changed in our society. I am not saying we have become perfect, but I would like to think that our bookstores can become a reflection of our general ideas and perspectives as a society. Books being published now are so much more nuanced, complex, but fun and different. Its much harder to pick up two of the same books, even if they are based on the same trope.

All this to say, things are changing. Whenever I get discouraged about the world around me, I think I need to go to a bookstore. It isn’t perfect, and they are still works of fiction. But fiction is often a lens people can use to relate to a story or experience, they themselves would never have experienced.

The book industry has changed a lot in the last ten years, and I hope it continues to do so. I hope that every single person, from every single walk of life can walk into it and see something they can relate to or open a book and read about something they would have never thought of. That is how we grow, change and progress as a society. I know the publishing industry is far from perfect, but I am happy to see that there is a shift in what is published and the stories that get told. 

Showing Up for Others

Showing Up for Others

A few weeks ago, I talked about how we need to start showing up for ourselves more, and I wholeheartedly believe you should always show up for yourself. But something else I have been reflecting on is how our generation tends to be when it comes time to show up for others in our communities.

You see, we sometimes lean towards showing up for ourselves more than we show up for others. During specific times in our lives, this makes perfect sense. We tend to forget that there is an entire world out there that needs us to actively be a part of it.

How do we find the balance between showing up for ourselves but also showing up for those around us when the time comes?

One example I turn to is the older generation, and by that, I mean the grandparents of the world. When you look at our grandparents, they are the first people to be by your side when you need them. When you call, they will come. They believe that it is important to show up for the people and things that are important to us, and I think our generation has to learn something from this. It’s not a hidden fact that older people, in general, tend to show up and participate more in events, civic duties, etc. and they show up happily. So why can’t we do that as well?

It’s not to say that we don’t, but sometimes I don’t think we do it enough. I don’t think it’s just because of social media. I think we don’t show up because it would mean committing to something in a way, we don’t have to that often. Yes, we can commit to our jobs, school and perhaps a few other things. But, showing up for others just seems like a step we have a hard time taking.

Here’s the thing, as the world progresses and continues to be as chaotic as it currently is, showing up for other people might need to become just as important as showing up for yourself. Once you get in the habit of showing up for yourself and taking care of yourself, it becomes a lot easier to be there for other people in your community.

But we have to remember that we are part of this world, this country, and this community. We actively play a role in society, whether we show up or not. But showing up makes a much bigger impact on everyone’s lives, including your own. We are also reaching a point in time where we can’t afford to not show up for others.

So today, I am challenging you to reflect for a bit. Think about how you engage with your community and how you can show up for others. Do the internal work of showing up for yourself and once you feel ready, remember it’s equally important to show up for others.

Imposter Syndrome

Imposter Syndrome

Imposter Syndrome – or as I would like to call it, the voice in the back of your head that just won’t shut up. You know the voice, the one where it tells you how unqualified you are, how you are not smart or even that one day you will be exposed as a fraud. This might sound familiar to a lot of women across the board, which speaks volume to just how apparent it is in our society.

I am not going to give you tips and tricks on how to deal with imposter syndrome. The internet does an excellent job of providing you with a bullet point list of all the things you can do to help mitigate that small voice in the back of your head, but none of these articles actually discuss why imposter syndrome exists in the first place, and why it is so commonly felt across society.

No matter how many tips I read on how to deal with imposter syndrome, they never worked. So maybe there is no remedy? Maybe I am just meant to feel like a fraud for the rest of my life. Then I came across this tweet and something clicked in me.


What if we feel like frauds because we have never seen anyone like us doing what we are doing? But then that got me thinking, why don’t we see more people like ourselves in all sorts of positions in society? At the end of the day, the field I entered was never designed for someone like me if anything it was created to exclude almost everyone. So maybe, I wasn’t alone in thinking that imposter syndrome might be about something bigger than myself.

Every article I have come across blames imposter syndrome on the individual. Somehow, it is up to you and you alone to solve this very large problem that has been built into the systems and structures we live in.

Here’s the thing, you are not alone in feeling like an imposter, but it’s also not your fault. The fault should probably lay with the patriarchal structures and institutions we are forced to conform with.
We are scared of being exposed as frauds because the systems we operate in were never created with us in mind. They never wanted us to succeed in the first place. When we step into them, we are going to feel like frauds because it was not designed for us to succeed in any way. The game you play when you engage with the structures and institutions that run our lives has been purposely designed not to include you in it.

As someone who has recently entered a field where it has been characteristically dominated by men, I can immediately tell you that I work every day feeling like an imposter. But it never occurred to me until I read this Tweet that the reason, I am feeling this way isn’t just in my head – its because things were never designed for me or with me in mind, and not just for me personally but for women and non-binary people in general. If you are not a straight white male, then chances are most fields were not created or structured in a way that included you.

All this to say, it is normal to feel and deal with imposter syndrome and there are a lot of resources out there that can help you deal with it internally. But this phenomenon cannot continue to go on ignored because it revolves around a lot more work than journaling or positive thinking. We need to overhaul and change the structures of the institutions we live and work in.

When we start designing a system or structure that everyone can work in, perhaps we can start realizing that imposter syndrome is a much bigger problem than what people feel on an individual level – it is a symptom of a much bigger problem. That problem is largely the patriarchal nature and tendencies that influence every institution that we live in.

Comment below if you have ever felt imposter syndrome — because at the end of the day you are not alone and it is not your fault.

Life is About Creating Yourself

Life is About Creating Yourself

Life is about finding yourself – is it, though?

For years I was caught up in this idea that I had to find myself. I was obsessed with trying to get back to this younger version of myself where I felt had peaked. I spent nights crying myself to sleep because I could not find myself. I spent days aimlessly wandering around trying to find this idealized idea and somehow make it fit into my life. But as we can all guess, that never actually happened. I never “found” myself the way everyone claimed I would. All this made me do was hold onto a past version of myself that no longer aligned with who I was or who I was becoming.

I held onto this idea because that’s all I ever knew. From Pinterest to Instagram to general conversations with friends, we were all led to believe that life was about finding yourself. We thought that one day we would stumble across this version of ourselves we once loved and immediately return to being that person. As I got older, I started to realize that all I was doing was holding myself back from enjoying the present and looking forward to the future – I had planted myself in the past and slowly but surely, I realized that it was not doing anything good for me.

Here’s the thing, life is not about finding yourself. When we ask people to find themselves, what exactly are they looking for? A version of themselves they used to be. It seems odd that the idea of finding ourselves suggest that we can g back to our past selves and embody them when undoubtedly, so much has changed.

So, I propose we change how we understand our life and who we are. Instead of aiming to find yourself, what if we made life about creating ourselves? What if we focused our energy on learning from the past and moving forward? What if we built who we wanted to be every single day?

Life is not about finding yourself. That idea implies that there was a better version of you that existed once upon a time and makes you forget that the best is yet to come. The best is yet to come if you create and build it.

Creating yourself leaves you with endless options of what you can create and who you can become, and those endless possibilities are one of the most beautiful gifts that life has to offer. Focus your energy on creating who you want to become and know that who you are right now is more than enough. Your past does not define you.

Personally, when I started shifting away from the idea of finding myself, I almost felt relieved. I felt like I had gained back some agency in my life like I was finally the one steering the ship. Creating yourself is about doing whatever the heck you want. It is about creating who you want to become and loving yourself in the process. Finding yourself might be great in some circumstances, but you have the option and agency to create who you want to be and the life you want to live.

How to Stop Living a Passive Life

How to Stop Living a Passive Life

Have you been living passively for the last year? For the past year or so, I have been watching the days, weeks and months, fly by without even realizing it. Time has flown by so quickly, and I genuinely cannot tell you where the time went or what even happened. Which got me thinking, what was doing in the past year? Why was I living such a passive existence? What happened to my life? The pandemic presented a strange set of circumstances that were different for each person, and the way we all responded to those circumstances differed as well. Today I want to share how I slowly climbed out of this habit of living life passively to one where I am actively living my life.

For an entire year, I stopped myself from feeling any sort of joy because I thought it was going to be taken away from me. For a year, I held in my grief because it hurt too much to feel anything. For an entire year, I let things happen to me and didn’t even bother reacting. I let life pass me by. Even though it was a horrible year in so many ways, it was still a year of my life. I still passively lived a year of this precious life that I have. Quite honestly, I have reached a point where I do not want that to be who I am or the type of life I live.

So, what changed? A few weeks ago, I reached a point where I was getting sick and tired of my daily routine. It was chaotic, boring, and quite frankly not helping me live my day-to-day life. So, I decided to challenge myself. For three days, I would try hard to create a daily schedule that was balanced, healthy and made me excited to wake up in the morning. For those three days, I made sure to carve out time in my days to do things I know benefit my mental and physical health, but that also allowed me to balance work with hobbies on the side. Was it easy? No. A part of me wanted badly to revert to old ways, and the next week I did. But I also realized how awful I felt living passively after I experienced three days of actually enjoying my life.

Now the question remains, what can you do about it? For one day, try to create a day that makes you truly happy. I am not saying you must ignore work and responsibilities but create a day that makes you feel balanced and happy. Think carefully about how you want this day to look. Think about how you want to feel. I would recommend writing it all done on a list because trust me there is nothing more satisfying than checking things off a list.

Once you have your list of all the little things that you can do in a day that would make you feel full, happy and balanced, it’s time to do it. I don’t have any secret how-to for this part because it’s up to you at this point to decide that you want to try. You wake every single morning and give it all you got, so why not try doing something you like? Take the list and go through it throughout the day and check things off.

I hope that at the end of the day, you feel happy and full. I hope you realize that little things throughout the day can make us feel just as satisfied and happy as the big moments in our lives can.

The secret to actively living your life and not passively going through it is that you must choose to live your life. You must actively choose small tasks or moments throughout your day and fill them with something you love. Living doesn’t have to be going on crazy adventures it can just mean living intentionally and fully.

I hope you take a few months to realize that if you have been on autopilot for the past year or just not happy or disconnected, that it doesn’t have to stay that way. You do not have to watch the rest of the world go on without you. You can be a part of it.

The only way you can create the life you want or the life you dream of is by deciding to live your life.

The Uncertainty Of New

The Uncertainty Of New

Do you remember that last time you tried something new? Do you remember how nervous but excited you felt? Maybe even a little reserved or apprehensive? Because I do. I am currently swimming in that feeling right now. It’s a strange feeling because it’s probably not that what you are doing for the first time is bad it’s just different and you know it might change things. Whether that be starting a new job, entering a new relationship, trying a new activity or hobby, doing something brand new for the first time brings up a lot of emotions.

Today, I want to focus on helping you get through that period of uncertainty that will undoubtedly come with the territory of doing something new.

First, when trying something, new it is crucial to reframe your mindset. When we approach something new, we often put on this guard and start thinking about how bad it might go. I am the first person who will jump to the worse conclusions and make up scenarios in my head of all the ways I will fail if I do or try something new. But one of the ways that I turn that mindset around is by reframing whatever I am about to do.

 Instead of seeing it as doing something scary or different, I remind myself that it is an opportunity to learn and do something that I have never done before. It is a chance to add something new to my repertoire, a chance to connect with people I have never met, a chance to see just what I can do. Think of something new as an opportunity for change, but see it as inviting positive change into your life and not the negative aspects you have overthought in your head that will probably not happen.

Second, embrace the uncertainty. Before we start something new, there is a small period of hesitancy that naturally comes with trying something new. It is normal, and you need to understand that. You need to accept that you might not know what’s to come, and that is okay. No one expects you to know how to do everything right from the start. We are not born knowing everything and nor are expected to know how to navigate new opportunities in our lives. It is okay not to know what will happen.

By accepting that you don’t know what’s come, you are allowing yourself the chance to take a breath and start something new in a way that is open and shows you are willing to open. When we don’t know anything, the best way to change that is to approach it with a willingness to learn. We can only do that once we accept that the circumstances surrounding the situation might be uncertain, but you are willing to learn.

Third, just dive right in. Starting something new often feels like standing on the tip of the diving board in a pool. It’s scary, but once we just take a deep breath and jump in, it turns out that it isn’t so bad after all. Take a deep breath, have some faith in yourself, and just dive right into it.

Show Up For Yourself

Show Up For Yourself

Last week, I was on a blissful high – I was happy, motivated, energized and springing out of bed in the morning. This week however, I can barely get myself to crawl out of bed in the morning. I feel unmotivated, tired, sad, and spaced out. What changed between last week and this week? I spent a few hours this morning racking my brain trying to understand what had changed. Then it dawned on me, I wasn’t showing up for myself.

I wasn’t doing the things I know I need to do to be the best and happiest version of myself.

I wasn’t moving my body, even though I knew it benefitted my mental and physical health in a lot of ways.

I wasn’t creating a balance in my schedule between work things and things that brought me joy.

I wasn’t eating food that fueled my body.

In short, I wasn’t showing up for myself like I had the week before. I knew very well how I would feel if I decided to do what was good for me, but I still didn’t do it. Why? Because I decided that not doing those things was the easier option. Maybe it was in the short-term, but in the long-term it just made me feel worse.

 Showing up for yourself is a decision you have to make every single morning. You have to decide to take care of yourself, to do what you love when you can, to eat whatever makes you feel best. You have to choose to be the best version of yourself – it doesn’t just happen to you.

When you want something, you have to actively go after it. You need to get the ball rolling if you will, or else nothing will happen. If you want to be happier, live a more authentic life or just be more present in the one you have, then you need practice every single day. You have to make choices that will lead you to that lifestyle that you want.

I challenge you to try and show up for yourself, because when you do, I can guarantee you that you will feel a whole lot better.

Start by analyzing the habits and routines that make you feel best and choose to stick to them.  A big part of this is you choosing to prioritize what makes you happy over everything else. Obviously, this is not always possible, but you have to choose to find even 5 minutes in your week to show up for yourself. 

Books You Need To Read

Books You Need To Read

I have loved reading for many years, but I must admit as a kid I hated reading. But now, it seems that I have to make up for lost time, which means I am constantly reading a book. Here are a few of my recent favourites that I would highly recommend you all take a look at.


1) The Midnight Library by Matt Haig
The book follows the story of Nora Seed who decides that she does not want to live anymore. After attempting to take her own life, she ends up in a unique place known as the Midnight Library – or the in-between of life and death. Here, along with the help of an old friend, she will get the chance to see what her life could have been if she had made different choices.
I was a bit hesitant to start this book, but I honestly have no idea why I waited so long, it was a fantastic book. Haig writes so beautifully and explains philosophical concepts of the universe in a simple, yet intriguing way. I would recommend this book to anyone who is a lover of philosophy, abstract thinking, a good story, or who needs a dose of inspiration.


2) Next Year in Havana by Chanel Cleeton
Next Year in Havana is the story of Marisol Ferrera who returns to Cuba in 2017, at the request of her now-deceased grandmother to spread her ashes in Cuba. Elisa Perez, Marisol’s grandmother, fled Cuba in 1958 at the age of 19 years old during the Cuban revolution. Both women’s stories give us a glimpse into understanding a time in history that we might have never learned about. This book has it all – the romance, history, excellent plot and just how tumultuous our family lives can be. If you are a history junkie, or just want to learn a little bit about the Cuban Revolution, then this might be a good place to start.
I did not know I would love this book so much, but the story and writing are crafted so well that you will not be able to put it down once you start.


3) The Flatshare by Beth O’Leary.
The book follows the story of Tiffy and Leon who become sort of roommates. Leon needs money to pay for his brother’s legal fees after he was wrongly accused of a crime and sent to prison, and Tiffy needs to get away from her ex-boyfriend as fast as possible. They go on to become roommates – but not your typical roommates. Leon works nights so he only uses the apartment during the day, while Tiffy works during the day and only uses the apartment at night. One would assume they would have no contact, but through a string of intricate post-it notes, their lives become intertwined with one another and they can’t seem to stay away from one another.
One of my favourite things about this book is how it addresses unhealthy, toxic and abusive relationships and the people that unfortunately are in them. As you will read, Tiffy was in an abusive relationship with her ex-boyfriend, but Beth O’Leary focused on empowering Tiffy and having her find the strength within to break away from it. Of course, she had her support system, but it was refreshing to read the main character find the strength within herself instead of finding that in others.

I truly love to read, and I love how easily we can be transported to a world none of us have ever known. If you too are a reader or want to become one, check out my other post for some more book ideas.
Happy Reading!

Figure Out Who You Are & What You Want

Figure Out Who You Are & What You Want

Do you ever find that your goals never pan out? Do you find yourself unmotivated after the excitement wears off? Then this post might be for you.

Today, I don’t want to focus on creating our goals, instead, I want to help you build a solid foundation for your goals and dreams, and that all starts with understanding who you are and who you want to become. When we create goals with no solid foundation, we set ourselves up to fail in a way. The truth is, the excitement and motivation will run out; but if you have created goals that align with who you are and who you want to become, then you can keep working towards those goals even when it gets challenging.  

Before you start building your goals, take the time to understand who you want to become. I find that the easiest way to go about this is by journaling. It doesn’t have to be anything complicated just grab a pen and a piece of paper and start writing. Write about anything that comes to your mind and what you want out of life and who you want to become.

For those of you who might need a bit of guidance, here are some journaling prompts I used after I did my free write, to structure out my ideas and see them more clearly:

  • Are you happy right now? If so, what makes you happy? If not, what makes you unhappy?
  • Is there anything you would change in your life right at this moment?
  • Who do you want to become? What does the best version of yourself do? What habits do they have? What kind of person are they?
  • Are you still the same person you were a few years ago? How have you changed? Have you changed at all?
  • What kind of lifestyle do you want to be living?